It’s a sister thing.

It is often that we are hardest on those we love most. We take their love for granted; we forget to apologize here and there; we say things we don’t mean; we forget to call back. It isn’t because we don’t care, but because their presence has become so familiar that we forget that they are people too, and that they have feelings, and that they can’t read minds. It’s known that communication is key, but it seems that often communication is the hardest within the family. I know it is for me. I know it is for my family. It’s easy to become comfortable with family, and it’s easy to fall into the mistake of assuming they know how you feel and why you do things. She’s my sister, why doesn’t she get I was joking? She’s my mom, why doesn’t she understand I didn’t do it on purpose? The truth is that sometimes the things we do hurt people even when that wasn’t our intention. It is difficult to accept when we’ve hurt someone, and it is even more difficult when that person is your family. I see it with my family everyday. I see it in myself too. Recently, my sister and I had a fight. Terrible things were said, and no apologies were exchanged. She is going to be going off to college in less than a month now. We both said things in the moment that I later realized neither of us meant. We yelled at each other about things the other did that made it seem like they didn’t care. The truth is I love my sister immensely. And I know she loves me too. I think we have different ways of showing it, and sometimes we don’t understand each other’s ways. We want our siblings and our family members to love us in the ways we want them to, and we forget to look at the unique ways in which they show their love. We choose to focus on the things they do that we don’t like and forget to look at the things they do that show they care. Everyone is different. Everyone has different ways of showing affection, love, anger, and embarrassment. There are multitudes of ways to show emotions and feelings. The other day I was listening to K-Love and the sermon was about choosing to see the good side of people and to think the best of them. I pray that God helps me do that with the people I interact with, with my family, and especially with my sister. A sibling’s love is greatly strong.  

“Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.” -Romans 12:18

“Love one another. As I have loved you..” -John 13:34